Sunday, 3 July 2011
Could I have found the magic cure for bedwetting ?
All three of our sons potty trained within two weeks and two were dry at night very soon after. Both of them were considered "early" at achieving this milestone. The third son is still wearing nappies at night at age six and a half.
Although we acknowledge that this is unusual, we were not overly concerned about this until about a year ago. I always worked on the premise that by the time they start school they will be able to dress themselves, count to 10 (or more) read a bit, write a bit etc etc. I never felt the pressure to push my boys into attaining milestones laid down in the minefield of "expert" books available on the subject of how to bring up your child.
Recently we have started to become a little concerned as the subject of friends sleepovers started to crop up. The twin who is dry at night has started telling his brother that he can't go and sleep at friends homes because he is still a baby who wears nappies. We have tried to explain to him that its not nice to talk like this and that his brother will be hurt and upset and that he can't help it, but its only a matter of time before it slips out in front of a friend or worse at school. When Grandma recently came to stay he was mortified when she walked in the room when I was putting his nappy on him. He understands himself that he is older than "normal" to be wearing a nappy at night. Recently they have started to leave marks on him because they are getting too small. We can't afford to buy him pull up pants which are way out of our price range. We have tried everything to help him. Waking him several times during the night, even setting our alarm clock to get up and take him to the loo. We have limited drinks at night and before bedtime. Tried reward charts, money, everything we can think of.
Last week after another distressing bedtime, I remembered something I used to do as a child when I wanted to wake up at a certain time. I would bang my head on my pillow the requisite number of times. As far as I can remember it never failed! I always woke up when I wanted to. When your child is distressed you will give anything ago. I told my son to bang (I say bang,but you know what I mean) his head on his pillow twice and repeat " I will not wet my bed tonight". He and his brother thought this was wonderful, a magic spell, like the tooth fairy or father christmas. Of course it would work, mummy said it would and do you know we are into our fourth night of him being dry , the longest dry period ever !
Just a fluke or
Mind over matter ?
You decide .......